The beautifully complex child and anxiety
As a mother of a complex child, when you are told by the experts that your child has a number of diagnosable disorders you momentarily feel vindicated. You knew your child was complex.
Whether it be Anxiety, ADHD, ASD, SPD, OCD, Eczema or ODD, this quickly gives way to feeling overwhelmed but mostly a little lost. “What do I do now?”
The good news is you will now get more support and understanding from your school, family and friends. However, you are still left wondering why.
Why is my child so complex and how can I be the best mother I can be to support my complex child?
Asking the “Why?” question is a monumental step forward. It’s a life-changing question because when you start to question the diagnosis of your complex child you begin to look past the diagnosis.
You are then focusing on your individual child and that’s when you can get to the real cause of your child’s symptoms.
It’s all connected
Let’s flesh this out a little. Say a child has a diagnosis of ADHD, Anxiety, Allergies and Eczema. You might think “phew what a handful!” But this presentation is very common. Approximately 50% of children with ADHD have allergies.
Okay, so are you asking “Why?” You should be because this is a very good question. It’s not by chance that a child has this list of disorders as they are all interconnected.
Allergies and eczema are an inflammatory trigger response. The body is reacting to something. It could be foods or an external allergen. This results in an immune system response and the release of histamine which causes an increase in inflammation.
Externally you may see symptoms of this as an itchy rash, sneezing or headaches. However, Histamine is also an excitatory neurotransmitter. Too much Histamine in the brain triggers the release of adrenaline which causes fight/flight and increases susceptibility to anxiety.
We also know that too many excitatory neurotransmitters can lead to hyperactivity and inattention, and there is your ADHD connection. This is a simplified example, but you get my drift!
Treat the whole child , not the diagnosis
Our approach when treating a child (both in our clinics and online programs) is to always look at the whole child, not their diagnosis. We dig deep, we hunt for the real cause of their anxiety.
We investigate their brain presentation, their diet, gut health, DNA and vagal tone. With this information, we can treat that individual child.
One of the amazing things we find with these “Beautifully Complex Children” is that they have beautifully committed Mothers.
Mums who will fight tooth and nail to reduce their child’s discomfort. Who understand that conventional treatments don’t work for these children. Mum’s who intuitively know that there is more to be done for their child.
If this is, you – we want to work with you! You and your beautifully complex child resonate with us as we are you. We too have complex children.
We’ve been in your shoes and we want to reassure you that your complex child is an amazing little being and with the correct support can thrive.
For many complex children, they have one symptom in common. One symptom that as Mother’s we cannot bare – ANXIETY!
It’s the anxiety that causes you the most heartache. When you witness your child’s outbursts or withdrawal. This is what you want to change because you know if that could be managed better, the other diagnosis can be accepted more easily.
This is why it was so important for us to focus our online course “Love Your Anxious Child” around anxiety. Having treated thousands of children in our clinics we know the positive impact calming the anxiety can have on both child and family.
Find out more about our Love Your Anxious Child Program here.